Definitely. We adopted a boy 19 years ago from Mother’s Choice and he was told about his adoption from an early age which he accepts and has no problem about it.
feraya | May 05, 2008, 08:57pm
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一定要比孩子知道,父母可以等他到18時說給他聽
tell | July 05, 2008, 11:35am
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I agree that the child shall know the fact that he/she is being adopted.
When will be the best time? How do we disclosed the infoamtion? How do we manage it if he/she discovered hints well before he/she is 18 years old? What are the benfits behind that we disclosed the information?
Naturally, they should know, and the earlier the better. An average person will be able to pick up things about difference in physical appearance, the relatives’ ‘strange looks’, etc. What is more, a child adopted in Hong Kong does not even have a ‘birth’ certificate, but is given only an adoption certificate. Anybody who needs to show his ‘birth’ certificate will immediately know that he is adopted, whether his parents wish to tell him or not. What is more, adoption is not a shameful thing. It is just one option (under somewhat awkward situations) for the birth parents, adoptive parents and child to look for the best way to serve the 3 parties, hoping to bring comfort and joy to each party. Since then it is not a shameful thing, the child must of necessity know this to be so, and to believe that God has different plans, loving plans, for him, which may differ from many others.
I was adopted from Mothers Choice 15 years ago and have been told about it since a young age. I think it is fine because I don’t feel that different.
KellyJordan | December 25, 2008, 03:59am
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Thank you for your comment, Kelly. May I know a little more about you ... as you said you were adopted from Mother’s Choice, we would like to get your information so that we can update our database. Also, voices like yours are not often heard in our society, so if there is a chance, we would love to hear more about your story and experience as being an adopted person.
Hope you will see this message and look forward to your email to us at
Definitely. We adopted a boy 19 years ago from Mother’s Choice and he was told about his adoption from an early age which he accepts and has no problem about it.